"Oh my gosh, he's such a creep! He keeps calling me up, and asking me to do stuff. . .and then I go, but try to keep it short. . .and then he keeps calling. . .I don't know what to do!"
Perhaps this is a wee bit harsh, but I wish girls would sometimes step up to the plate a little more with regard to their relationships. You don't want to spend time with him. He keeps calling. So what do you do?
A) Go out with him
B) Tell him you're busy
C) Say no.
D) Say yes, and then whine to all your friends about how this guy is following you, and you can't get him to stop, and blah blah blah.
Apparently "D" is the new pink, as oblivious guys and wussy girls tap dance around the issue at hand. When I've suggested to girls that they actually just turn the guy down (no excuses, no "maybe some other times," just a polite, "No, I don't think that's going to work,"), I'm labeled harsh, heartless. All because I would rather send a guy away slightly hurt but with his dignity intact than play him along, tear him to shreds behind his back, and ultimately dump him, hurting him worse than the first refusal would have.
Ladies, please quit committing the logical misstep of gossiping behind a guy's back and stringing him along--all in the name of "not hurting him." It's unrequited romantic feelings. Someone is going to be hurt, and that same someone will ultimately heal. The more quickly the hurt is dealt out, the more quickly the healing can commence, so keep his dignity (and your own) intact by treating him and his reputation with care.
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